Submission and trust

Trust is everything. Trust is the safety net that I rely on when I let a lover take me under, into sub space, and further, to the edges of my limits. Trust is the key ingredient that allows me to put my body, my mind and my emotions on the line when I give control away and submit to a man.

Trust must be earned; it cannot be given freely. It used to be easy to trust someone I had just met, based on some words uttered, some promises made, and some expressions that seemed to reach me on a deeper level. It was just words, the actions that followed were not always aligned and as a result, the trust was broken before it had time to develop and grow. My mind was broken with it.

Trust is caring. A Dom who can both push me to the edge of the precipice, and hold me in his arms as we both lean over to look, feel, touch, he wouldn’t let me fall. That is a caring Dom I trust. He is the man who can read the hints in my words and understand the signaling of my body to realize when to intensify, or when to take a step back. Someone who can slap me hard, and caress me tenderly and gently at the same time is the best type of Dom, who takes care of his sub.

Trust takes time. It does not appear overnight, and it is not based on one gesture or one mutual experience. I want a lover who has all the patience in the world for me, one who will guide me, gently yet firmly along this path of exploration and who will give me all the time I need to fully build up the trust required for the intense and intimate relationship that I desire so much.

Trust is fragile. It is easily broken, more so while it is taking time to build. If I am opening up to someone, putting myself on the line each time I expect a lover to meet me half way. I am giving myself fully to him and only to him, and expect him to do the same for me. I should be the only one who matters, and I want him to make me feel it on a deep, fundamental level.

Trust must be maintained. Consistency is most important, and meetings must be spaced so that the feeling of his touch is not allowed to fade from my skin. Maintaining a strong physical connection and a level of intimacy is what helps build the trust; too long a break, and we are back at the beginning.

Trust is growth. The only way to develop as a person is to have a caring partner I can trust both physically and emotionally. I want a partner who makes me want to be the best person I can be, and I will do the same for him.

Trust must not be broken. Once it’s gone, it’s almost impossible to get it back. The pain of losing trust in my lover, my partner and my Dom is the greatest pain, one that I do not wish to experience ever again.

Trust is everything. I want to build a relationship based on trust.